Make Room for Love
How to create and maintain meaningful Relationships
Relationships can be as wonderful as they can be challenging. The challenges can serve as powerful stepping stones if you know how to use them correctly. These are the stepping stones to gaining self-mastery, awareness, sensitivity, loving-kindness, intimacy, and the ability to communicate well.
If your primary aim is to awaken to your full potential and that of your relationship, you can receive these priceless benefits from dealing skillfully with relationship issues. The inevitable challenges will then not be an annoyance or worse, but enable you to find those parts of you which you need to change to become free and capable of loving fully.
Overcoming relationship challenges is the price of true intimacy.
Intimacy
There was a time when it was easy and effortless to relate and be close. Do you remember these times, when it was natural to open without fear, without the web of thoughts that tell you that love is not safe and hard to find?
These were the times of truth. Whether you shared these moments with a lover, a child, sibling, parent or friend, or with no one, it was then that you knew who you are. In truth you are that love - unconditional, free, undemanding. Underneath all the complications of life, you are still complete in yourself, experiencing the profound joy of your being. But you have become unaware of your depth.
In this love you will be completely alive in the moment. Your yearning for it is the most precious gift. It can inspire you to find the pearl beyond price, a fully open and enlightened heart, and all the people you meet will be your treasured guides to that realization.
The Skills can help you remove the obstructions that come in the way of such love, such aliveness. And of course love and relationship has to begin with you. In order to share love you have to have it first. This is not selfish; it is simply the way it works.
Your stressful thoughts and emotions obstruct self-love and love of another. It is inevitable: if your mind is closed your heart will be closed as well.
Therefore all the relationship problems you experience are caused by your stressful thoughts and emotions. Yes, we are attached to finding fault with the other, but in reality we experience conflict not ‘out there’ with the other person, but ‘in here’ within ourselves.
This insight gives you a way to end the vicious cycle of blaming, accusing, and feeling like a victim of other people’s behavior. It enables you change your reactions, and if you improve, your relationship will change as well. It has to, because it takes two people to maintain an unhealthy pattern.
The realization that you can become fully capable to change your life and relationship – by yourself! – is extremely empowering.
Stressful thoughts and emotions cause conflict. But if your mind is clear and your emotions in harmony, your heart will be open and you will no longer create obstacles to love.
In our experience, the fastest and most effective way to clear the mind of the stressful thoughts and beliefs and the confusion that drive relationship conflicts is
The best skill to systematically free yourself of distressing feelings and to dissolve the unconscious compulsion to fall into repetitive cycles of emotional pain and conflict, is
And the best of all medicines is to directly link your awareness to the seat of the soul and use the immense powers of the heart in your awakening
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“The situation in my marriage has become very peaceful. There is no longer any conflict; we enjoy each other’s company and I feel much better about myself. I have much more positive feelings about people.”
- Gary G., Vero Beach, Florida
